Methods on How to Deal with Your Relatives Peacefully
Most people have at least one challenging relationship with their relatives. How can you make peace? Here are some effective ways to deal with your relatives so you don’t go crazy in the process.
- Commit to having a better relationship
Relationship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words. A better relationship is a peaceful relationship. Devote yourself entirely to the relationship until it gets better. You must be determining to overcome all circumstances.
A good relationship with your relatives ushers in numerous benefits. To commit to having a better relationship, make out time to have a one on one conversation with them as this will help you know them better and then strengthen your individual relationship together. Take decisions together and ensure you make out time to doing fun filled things together.
- Live your life the way you want it
Remember that what they do is about them, not about you. Always live your life the way you want it and remember it is not about you but about them. Give yourself a lot of time as you want and live. Take your time and never allow any relationship to challenge your own wellbeing.
Don’t get caught up with the things your relatives do, instead live your life and allow them live theirs too. Keep developing and upgrading yourself and acquire more knowledge as possible. Develop yourself while they develop theirs.
- Get to know their thought
Ask them if there is anything you can do to improve the relationship. Get to know their thought. What they feel about the relationship. Ask them if there is anything they want you to do to improve the relationship. Know if there is anywhere you need improvement.
Get feedbacks from them and discover the things you are not doing right and work on their ideas. These feedbacks gives you clue on ways to become a better you and thereafter improving your relationship and yourself too.
- Forgive them for any wrongs
There is no better relationship without sincere and total forgiveness. Accept their flaws because no one is perfect. Human beings make mistakes. Even the bible commands that ‘Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye’’ (Colossians 3:13) There is no revenge as sweet as forgiveness. One of the most peaceful and lasting relationship you can experience is when you always forgive.
The fact that you should forgive doesn’t mean that you should accept abuse. Forgive who ever that wrongs you because a forgiving heart opens the door for virtues like peace, love, gratitude and lots more. Figure out a way to neglect whatever wrong done to you by your relatives and accept them just the way they are. You can say a nice word or probably smile at them with integrity when they wrong you in other not to take the bitterness too deep.
Forgiving someone that wronged you keeps you free from regret when the person is no more. It makes your mind free from grudges and hatred and reduces the weight of bitterness associated with un-forgiveness.
- Don’t try to change them
Don’t try to change them; change your reaction to their behavior. You will always be disappointed while trying to change them. Rather than arguing on that behavior which can lead to a conflict, look for a more pleasant way of correcting them by that they will know you don’t like their behavior towards you.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to listen to the person without judging and just hold their hands. The person in question might be depressed and not know how to control their depression. Endure them and gently console them and with time your gentle talks will do the change in them and make them better and they get corrected gradually. Trying to immediately change someone doesn’t really work rather it is a gradual process when the right steps are taken.
- Look at the good time you spent together
Have something pleasant to look forward to after you spend some time with them. While meeting with your relatives always concentrate on the positive. Let your attention be on the good side. Think of all the satisfaction and enjoyment you derived in spending time with them.
When you look forward to meeting relatives bearing in mind that you are definitely going to have a good time, you tend to love them more and improve your relationship with them peacefully. When next you are meeting, remember the good times you shared together and if there are no good times shared already, create and map out time to make a good memory. This is one of the best ways to deal with a relative peacefully.
- Seek help from those who know both of you
Enlist help from those who know both of you. Seek for advice from those that are aware of the relationship. Their thoughts may go a long way in building that relationship. Get them to settle any conflict between both of you.
Without taking sides, they exposes they dangers involved in keeping conflicts and encourages through providing numerous ideas on how best to go about resolving the existing conflict and how to prevent it from repeating again.
- Maintain positive communication
Give relatives time to express their feelings and thoughts. Listen attentively and concentrate on what they have to say. Talk about difficult things like mistakes, fear, anger, finance, failure, joy, and a whole lot of other topics.
Communicate with love and encourage them the best way you can. Appreciate them for being part of your life and for any good deed they have done. Always use kind and positive gestures when dealing with them.
A final word
Dealing with relatives can be challenging at times, but they are your family. Use these tips to make dealing with them a little easier and more peaceful for you and everyone else too.